Love and Respect Series of Post: Summary

Husbands and Wives,

   This series of posts is meant as a refresher for those that have read Love and Respect and to spark interest to read more for those who have not. This book touches on so many details which are critical for God to change your marriage long term that you should not skip it and use these lists alone.

   I do not know what you are going through right now in your marriage; you might be on the verge of divorce or using this tool to strengthen your already healthy bond with your spouse. Either way, I do know that God will provide if you make Him the desire of your heart. 

    Love and Respect is just a book but the Bible verses and the truth of God's design are what make it powerful. Let me be clear, without a relationship with Christ these checklist will just be a temporary Band-Aid. Through relationship with Jesus, your life, marriage and family can be changed forever. We could not earn it...but the merciful Lord did it for us and He wants to do the same for you ( read Romans 10:9-13).

God bless your marriage and may the Lord Jesus Christ renew your soul and relationship,

Marc and Mary Lou

Wives' Love and Respect Checklist - Part 6

Adored Wives,

We are at the last step of C-H-A-I-R-S: How To Spell Respect To Your Husband

Conquest

Hierarchy

Authority

Insight

Relationship

Sexuality

This is the fifth checklist, Sexuality, for showing your husband you respect him.

Your husband will feel you appreciate his sexual intimacy when:

-you respond to him sexually more often and initiate sex periodically.

-you understand he needs sexual release just as you need emotional release.

-you let him acknowledge his sexual temptations without fearing he'll be unfaithful and without shaming him.

-you don't try to make him open up to you verbally by depriving him of sex.

A good scripture Emerson shares is "The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband" (1 Corin 7:3) 

God bless your marriage,

Marc

Eggerichs, Emerson. "Sexuality - His Desire for Sexual Intimacy." Love & respect: the love she most desires, the respect he desperately needs. Nashville, TN: Integrity Publishers ;, 2004. p 249-258. Print.

Wives' Love and Respect Checklist - Part 5

Ladies,

Remember C-H-A-I-R-S: How To Spell Respect To Your Husband

Conquest

Hierarchy

Authority

Insight

Relationship

Sexuality

This is the fifth checklist, Relationship, for showing your husband you respect him.

Your husband will feel you appreciate his shoulder-to-shoulder friend when:

-you tell him you like him and you show it (he knows you love him, but he often wonders if you really like him).

-you respond to his invitation to engage in recreational activities together or you come along to watch him (you don't have to go every time, but just now and then will energize him more than you realize).

-you enable him to open up and talk to you as you do things shoulder to shoulder.

-you encourage him to spend time alone, which energizes him to reconnect with you later.

-you don't denounce his shoulder-to-shoulder activities with his male friends to get him to spend more face-to-face time with you. Respect his friendships , and he will be more likely to want you to join him shoulder to shoulder at other times.

The shoulder-to-shoulder wife sees new meaning in "won without a word" (1 Peter 3:1)

God bless you and your family,

Marc

Eggerichs, Emerson. "Relationship - His Desire for Friendship." Love & respect: the love she most desires, the respect he desperately needs. Nashville, TN: Integrity Publishers ;, 2004. p 238-248. Print.

Wives' Love and Respect Checklist - Part 4

Brides,

Remember C-H-A-I-R-S: How To Spell Respect To Your Husband

Conquest

Hierarchy

Authority

Insight

Relationship

Sexuality

This is the fourth checklist, Insight, for showing your husband you respect him.

Your husband will feel you appreciate his insight and counsel when:

-you tell him upfront you just need his ear; don't complain to him later that he always tries to "fix" you.

-you thank him for his advice without acting insulted or like he doesn't care about you feelings.

-you recognize his problem-solving approach as his male brand of empathy.

-you realize your vulnerabilities, especially among males, and value his protection.

-you counsel him respectfully when you differ with his ideas (you can be right but wrong at the top of your voice).

-you sometimes let him "fix things" and applaud his solutions.

-you let him know that you believe God has made us male and female for a purpose and that we need each other.

-you admit that you can sin and thank him for his perception and godly counsel.

God bless your marriage,

Marc

Eggerichs, Emerson. "Insight - His Desire to Analyze and Counsel." Love & respect: the love she most desires, the respect he desperately needs. Nashville, TN: Integrity Publishers ;, 2004. p 227-237. Print.